Guest Post: “It Just Seems Fair”

It Just Seems

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A couple of weeks ago we shared birth mom Ellen’s words about birth parents on TV, and today we are re-posting her thoughts about adoptees having access to their original birth certificates, which we wrote about on Tuesday. She also discusses her feelings about the difficult questions that adoptees may ask their birth and adoptive parents as they get older.

As a birthmother, adoptees knowing their given names (at birth) seems to me to be a civil rights issue. Everyone else in the U.S.A. knows their names – why not them? My son happens to know his birth name and it just seems fair that he does.

You also talked about the difficult questions adoptive parents may face when their children get a little older. My feeling is – just tell the truth. Some information can’t be shared, but the basic information, like hair color, health information, size of birth families may mean a whole lot to a person. It may bring up more questions, but that’s part of the job.

I know I have a lot of opinions, but I’ve had many years to think about these things. Being a birthmother means waking up every day without your child. That leaves time to think and feel. Thanks for taking the time to have this blog. Keep writing! So will I.

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