From a Birth Mother During National Adoption Month

This is our fourth guest post written by Jenna Myers, a birth mother who placed her daughter with an adoptive family in 2009. You can read Jenna's previous posts, and posts from other guest bloggers, here.

After finding out that you’re unexpectedly expecting, many woman (and men) often think one of two thoughts: abortion or parenting. It is a small group of people who actually ponder adoption. Many people just dismiss the thought entirely. It shouldn’t be that way. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that adoption is for everyone, because it’s not, I’m just saying that the idea of adoption shouldn’t be thrown out before the word is finished being spoken.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month, and I think it is a great time to start talking about it. For those of you who don’t usually talk about the adoption, what stops you? For those of you who do talk about it, who do you talk with? I know that I talk about it constantly. I talk about it at work, with complete strangers, with kids, with anyone! I think we need to get together, and we need to help people see that it is possible to place and then live a happy, healthy and normal life. People need to know that life doesn’t end after you place, and that you can have an open adoption if you want to. It is so important to spread the word. Adoption changes the lives of everyone involved – your child will have opportunities that couldn’t be provided otherwise, a family (who may not be able to have children on their own) is blessed with a child, and you are given an opportunity to make your life what you had always imagined. No one loses in adoption.

Let this month pull you out of your shell a bit, and start telling your story – you’ll never know who it may impact. But it’s important to keeping sharing. Once you get comfortable talking about it and telling your story, keep doing it, don’t stop in December. We need to educate people on what adoption is nowadays, and show people that it’s okay – that we’re okay.

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