Common Adoptive Family Fears and Challenges Related to Birth Families

When I first speak with families considering adoption, the most common emotions expressed are tentative hope, but also fear.  Although there are many unknowns in the process, inevitably, most fears circle around the birth parent relationship.
What is important to remember is that birth parents are often as frightened as you are about this process.  They worry about choosing the right family, they worry that their child will feel abandoned or think they are a bad person, and they worry about being judged by their family members, peers, and current or future children and spouses.   It can feel overwhelming for everyone involved – you are all brought together by a shared experience of loss – loss for adoptive families of not having biological children, and loss for birth parents for not being who they wish to be in this moment so they can parent their child. 

Tags: Adoption,Open Adoption,Domestic Adoption

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