Infertility is a significant life event. It takes time to process the myriad feelings that come from being infertile and giving up your dream of having a birth child. You don’t have to “resolve” your infertility, however, to move on and embrace adoption. After all, we don’t resolve our grief and loss when a loved one dies; rather with time, the hurt and sadness that come from the loss recedes slowly into the background and we feel stronger and more healed each day. Similarly, with infertility, we don’t wake up one morning, with our infertility forgotten and put neatly away. It takes time to feel that adoption is a viable and exciting alternative and not a second choice for your family.