A Leap of Faith

Dear bloggers,

I'm sorry I've been a little out of touch but I've gotten some great responses from our readers and one in particular. This an inspirational woman who made an adoption plan for her child 5 years ago. After taking much time to heal I got the opportunity to spend some time with her and reflect what her adoption journey has been like up until now. We discussed all the hard ships and wonderful moments she has experienced throughout this process and what she has learned five years later. Her best advice although it's difficult to sum it up is to understand that yes adoption is a leap of faith, open or closed there are so many uncertainties and questions without answers. You don't know for sure how things will work out but as this inspirational birth mother reminded me the adoptive family on the other end is taking the same leap of faith in you…I encourage all of you to listen to the pod cast of this inspirational conversation that will be posted on Adoptions Together's web page in the next few weeks…

To sum it all up here are a few pointers that made this whole process a little easier…

Tip 1: Take the time to process your decision before delivery…write yourself a letter to remind yourself what decision you made when you were at your most rational point…after delivery emotions are usually running high and it's so much harder to remember why you made this choice in the first place

Tip 2: Cherish each moment you have with your baby before and after delivery…whether or not you choose to make an adoption plan, as this child's biological mother there are certain things you will share that no one else will have…you will get to feel the baby make their first movements and you have the opportunity to hold him and look at him before anyone else…

Tip 3: Tell your story…many birth mom's ask me will my child know me…will he/she know where she comes from and how much I love him/her? In response to this, take the time to write down these thoughts in a journal or scrapbook so you can give the answers to these questions to your child…

Tip 4: Seek support…as a birth mom you are not alone there are many opportunites to link up with other women in your position if you have the courage to look…some resources might be the adoption agency you are working with, www.birthmombuds.com is a website with wonderful resources and for retreat opportunities look into the on your feet foundation…

Until next time,

Lindsey

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