Guest Post: Turning Away from Negativity

Even when we feel firmly about our decisions, it's not easy to stand up to disagreement from our friends, family or even acquaintances. And it's normal to have second thoughts about major decisions, especially when people feed us their doubts. Talisa is back again today as a guest blogger to talk about how much security it takes to turn away from what people are saying.

Hey everyone. I hope that everyone had a great holiday and happy new year.

Throughout my winter break from school, I had a lot of things on my mind. Just the other day I was talking with my boyfriend on the phone about the little things that couples go through. He was telling me that the other day one of his good friends was engaged just like he and I, and his friend was very worried about what their future was going to be like. I never thought I would say this, but people have to know what they want. I remember I was talking with my mom and asking her if she felt that I was making the right decsion to be engaged at such a young age but she said that as long as I know that I'm doing the right thing and I should take things slow then she feels that I know what I want.

Shopping for Christmas presents this past year was wonderful. I never thought that I would be so happy going into a baby store without crying, but I did it and I was so proud of myself. I realized that I was done with letting others who don't support me put me down. I've lost many friends throughout the year since my adoption, and I now know who my real friends are. A lot of the girls that I was friends with told me what a horrible person I was and made me feel like I was nothing. Now that I'm in the New Year, I've made up my mind that only the people who support me and are there for me are the people that I would want to be around. The others who like to talk about me behind my back and critize me are no longer on my mind. I 've learned a valuable lesson from my mom — you never know who is using you from who isn't using, she tells me this all the time.  So I now know that I don't need backstabbers, because they messed up with me. I've definitely forgotten about them. My dad always told me to make your friends with your enemies so I 've tried that, but it hasn't worked. So I will definitely just forget them just like they have forgotten about me.

So my question is, are there days were some of you have things like this on your mind?

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