LGBT Adoption

Gay, Lesbian, Same Sex Adoption (LGBTQ adoption)


Adoptions Together has a proud history of building families with couples and singles who are a part of the LGBTQ community. Each year the number of LGBTQ families working with Adoptions Together continues to grow. Adoptions Together is fully committed to equality in adoption. We have found that to be most effective at achieving equality, partnering with organizations is vitally important. As such, the Executive Director and Founder of Adoptions Together (Janice Goldwater) serves on the advisory board for All Children All Families project of the Human Rights Campaign (www.HRC.org). HRC was founded in 1980 with a goal of supporting congressional candidates who align themselves with fairness and equality regarding the LGBTQ community. Over the last 30 years, HRC has established itself as a powerful force in the movement for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender civil rights to obtain equality across the U.S. in all matters – particularly adoption. Adoptions Together is proud to work on this critical issue of equality.

Adoptions Together also works closely with the All Children, All Families Initiative and with Rainbow Families of DC to provide workshops and events for the LGBTQ community, to sponsor social gatherings, and to reach out to LGBTQ families that need support and services for adoption.

At Adoptions Together we welcome:

  • Gay parents interested in adoption
  • Lesbian parents interested in adoption
  • Bisexual individuals and couples interested in adoption
  • Transgender individuals and couples interested in adoption
  • Single parent families (both men and women)

International LGBTQ Adoption

LGBTQ couples and individuals interested in pursuing an international adoption should inquire with their placement agency about specific country restrictions pertaining to LGBTQ adoption, as international guidelines vary greatly. Adoptions Together welcomes to opportunity to complete international home studies for LGBTQ couples and individuals if you meet intercountry eligibility requirements.

Frequently Asked Questions on LGBTQ Adoption

Is the legal process different for LGBTQ adoption in the various states where Adoptions Together is licensed?

The laws vary. Currently, as of 2018, adoption laws of DC, Maryland and Virginia are as follows:

  • Washington, D.C. – Single parent adoption is permitted. LGBTQ couples may petition jointly to adopt a child. Additionally, DC law prohibits agencies from discriminating against any individual or couple based on sexual orientation or gender identity.
  • Maryland – Single parent adoption is permitted. LGBTQ couples may petition jointly to adopt a child. Additionally, Maryland law prohibits agencies from discriminating against any individual or couple based on sexual orientation.
  • Virginia – Single parent adoption is permitted. LGBTQ couples may petition jointly to adopt a child. Virginia law allows certain private agencies to reject adoption applications of any individual or couple based on religious grounds. If you are an LGBTQ individual or couple with residency in Virginia and would like to discuss adoption options, please contact Adoptions Together where you will be welcomed with open arms.
  • Prospective LGBTQ adoptive parents interested in adoption are encouraged to discuss legal matters in more detail, including legal advice and specifics on adoption with a lawyer or other qualified counsel.

Will I have to wait longer than other prospective parents that want to adopt?

AT shares profiles of perspective families in the order that they have been waiting, however, ultimately the choice and selection of adoptive parents is left to the birthparents or birthmother of the child. In the event that the birthparents choose to not participate in the selection process, our agency will place the child based on a number of factors that include the length of time adoptive parents have been waiting and the quality of the match. Historically many of our birth parents have been open to same sex couples and single adoptive parents.

Have other LGBTQ families had successful adoptions through Adoptions Together?

Absolutely! We have been serving the LGBTQ community for years and have helped bring together many families. We have had numerous success stories from families and individuals and continue to provide comprehensive services including support, training, and counseling to help families stay strong together.

Does Adoptions Together provide help for raising a child in a LGBTQ home?
We offer a variety of resources, seminars, and counseling for individuals and families to help them cope with current issues and to prepare them for many common parenting issues that arise. Our counselors and support staff are always available to ensure that your questions are answered and to provide you with the support you need.

An Adoption Story

Our family has experienced two completely different adoption processes with Adoptions Together. While both were unique, one thing remained the same – the wonderful care that Adoptions Together staff showed toward our family.

Our family has experienced two completely different adoption processes with Adoptions Together. While both were unique, one thing remained the same – the wonderful care that Adoptions Together staff showed toward our family. I can remember my first conversation with Jen, Connor Lincoln’s social worker, in August 2007. She was all about attention to detail and sharing so much with me. Since I was adopting on my own, it was only me that needed to be briefed. The AT team kept me updated on everything throughout the decision phase of the placement. I can still remember that phone call from Jen. I had waited so long to hear those words and finally I was a parent.

There was never a feeling of discrimination or lack of support. The staff were very open to my desire to be a parent. While I do not think it would have made a difference, one of the things about my first adoption is that it was as a single gay man. When I adopted Connor, Jen and Laura had asked me if I would consider a sibling if one came along in the future – I did not hesitate – as I always planned on having two children. At about the same time Connor was coming into my life, so did my eventual partner and co-parent Wade. He was a support system from a distance as I came to Maryland to pick up Connor. Once we had been together for almost a year and a half we had decided that we would begin the process to get a baby sister for Connor in the summer of 2010.

February 11, 2009, would change our family forever – as Connor Lincoln’s birth mother had a baby girl on 2/10. While we did not want to know the sex until the baby was ours, we were wondering if it was a girl. The fact that Connor and Taylor are biological siblings is so wonderful. As a gay couple, we were treated with as much respect as when I adopted alone. We mainly dealt with Laura for this process and she was wonderful.

The legal process was also very smooth for me when I finalized Connor’s adoption alone and Wade and I both adopted Taylor Kennedy as joint parents and again that went so smoothly. If you would like more information, please contact Adoptions Together to get in contact with us. We would be happy to talk with you and help you through any questions or concerns you have about Adoptions Together being your forever-family facilitators. If we adopt again – I only want to deal with Adoptions Together! Wishing you the best in your adoption journey.

Sincerely,
Nathan, Wade, Connor Lincoln and Taylor Kennedy